I'm glad you are here! If you are visiting this site because you can relate to the label "Other Woman" and desire to be free from this badge of shame, you are at the right place. I've been there and done that. But I have good news for you. You are not alone. There is HOPE!
Wendy Crane is the author of The Scandal of Virginia Grey, a fiction based on the true events of her life's story. Wendy’s primary occupation for over 30 years has been as a legal and administrative assistant. To satisfy her creative bent, however, Wendy has been involved in music in one way or another most of her life. As singer/songwriters, Wendy and her husband, Maurice (Reese) Crane, both individually and jointly have released several albums, including Letting Go in 2010. Whether through their band, Creekside Soul, or as worship leaders within the church, Reese and Wendy continue to use their gifts to glorify God.
As founders of the Silent Addiction, Reese and Wendy Crane have an intense desire to attend to the needs of those who have suffered deep wounds in the area of sexual addiction and extra-marital affairs. Because of their story of sex addiction, infidelity, deceit, emptiness, brokenness, as well as forgiveness, healing, freedom, restoration and reconciliation, they are very well equipped to rescue others in the same struggle. Their heart is to see the sex addict, the other woman, and the betrayed spouse all find healing in the arms of a loving Father and Bridegroom who will bring peace and rest to a weary and wounded soul. Wendy and her husband reside in Florida near the Gulf Coast where she, a true aquaphile, can satiate her love of the water.
For the most part, the gist of my story is encapsulated in my novel, The Scandal of Virginia Grey. I would say 85% of the story is true to form. I have taken creative liberty in developing fictional characters, places and storyline; however, the substance of events came from my life. So, if you want a clearer picture of my story, I would recommend reading the book (see the "Scandal Book" tab).
In 2000, I found myself in a situation I never imagined--becoming "the other woman" in an extramarital affair. This was a stark contrast to my previously held identity as a proud virgin, keeping myself pure and waiting for marriage. Looking back, I realize my pride blinded me to my own vulnerability. I had convinced myself I was strong enough to resist temptation, but I was unprepared for the perfect storm of circumstances that would sweep me away.
The affair exposed a deep, unmet need within me for love, acceptance, and value. I was tired of being seen as the "perfect" Wendy who could do no wrong. This experience shattered that image, plunging me into years of regret, shame, and heartache.
Remarkably, the man I had the affair with is now my husband. His own struggles with pornography and sex addiction played a significant role in the early stages of our relationship. Through God's grace, he has since found freedom from these issues and now helps other men facing similar challenges. His story can be found at this link: The Silent Addiction.
My path to healing was put into motion by a very unexpected source--the betrayed spouse. In her own journey of healing from the betrayal, she offered me the greatest gift of all! Forgiveness! This act of bravery began to unlock my tightly closed heart, starting the long process of self-forgiveness and healing.
It took me nearly 20 years to speak about the affair without feeling shrouded in shame. Forgiving myself and my husband was a long, difficult journey, but the freedom and joy I've found on the other side have made it worthwhile.
Today, all parties involved have reconciled. We've chosen to believe the best in each other, especially for the sake of the children involved. Our relationship now stems from God's redeeming love, and we even spend holidays together (a fact that tends to blow people’s minds)! But only God could knit together such a beautiful tapestry of redemption from our brokenness.
The details of your story may differ; however, I believe there is one underlying truth. God is able to do far above all we could ever ask or think. Don't limit His power and desire to work miracles in your life and relationships. Be open. Be honest. Be humble. Be long-suffering. And watch how Redeeming Love can make everything beautiful in its time!
It's important to note that while this ministry offers support to "other women," it does not condone or encourage infidelity. Rather, it recognizes the complex nature of these situations and the need for healing for all parties involved. For those seeking support, it may be beneficial to consider professional counseling, particularly with therapists experienced in infidelity issues, in addition to faith-based support. This can provide a comprehensive approach to healing and personal growth.
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